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the Self Study Papers

Welcome to the blog by the Duality Project. We're so glad you're here. Within these papers, you'll find stories, explorations of ideas, emotions, and learnings. Take what you need and leave the rest.

On Letting Go When It's Time acceptance newsletters Apr 28, 2024

Storytime with Ruby

Howdy,

In my last relationship I spent a long time being patient. Hoping things would change; hoping he would change. I resisted the acceptance necessary to see clearly. Finally, I got fed up. I said “I can’t do this anymore,” and walked out.

From the outside...

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ahhh, the goop phase acceptance connection & community presence self study self study coaching Apr 21, 2024

Storytime with Kate

I felt so seen when a friend sent me an article a few years ago about how caterpillars turn into a goopy nutrient dense soup-like substance inside the chrysalis before they turn into a butterfly.

and maybe you've forgotten this from 7th grade science class like I absolutely...

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So what? connection & community freedom newsletters self study Apr 10, 2024

Storytime with Ruby

 
This morning I came straight to the window where the sunrise shines through. I pulled up a chair and I sat, mason jar of water in tow. I'm still sitting here now, the particular warmth of the morning sun gracing me with its embrace. I turn my face to the sun, close my...
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I Like The Way You Are: courage freedom newsletters presence trust Apr 01, 2024

Storytime with Kate

As Ruby said in last week's newsletter: Life really be life-in', dontcha think?

*you'll notice words highlighted in yellow below: they are some of the themes of the My Self Study Practice - they're highlighted like this to show you how they've show up in real time for me...

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if life's a marathon... newsletters self study Mar 25, 2024

Storytime with Ruby

Life really be life-in', dontcha think?

Sometimes it feels like: if it's not one thing, it's another.

The typical duties and responsibilities (ie laundry, dishes, groceries, bills, work) PLUS the ongoing curveballs (sickness, injury, accidents, transition, loss) mean that...

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Become the Person You've Always Needed newsletters trust Mar 17, 2024

Storytime with Kate

the Self Study Program is a practice of becoming the person you've always needed.

That could actually be the end of the post!

               I'll elaborate:

 

On an IG live the other day I shared this little nugget that...

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10 reasons you are ready now for the Self Study Program newsletters self study Mar 06, 2024

Storytime with Ruby

Kate and I have been talking a lot about the lie of *READY*. 

Personally, I've never felt ready for any leap in my life... I've just felt a tug and leaned in.

But in all those instances of not feeling ready for the leap, I have known I was ready for ...

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Trustfall, Baby: The Lie of Readiness and What You Can Do Instead newletters Mar 03, 2024

Storytime with Kate

 

I woke up to two texts this morning from men in my life:

One from my friend Matt that was a link to Pink's song Trustfall

And the second was from my friend Russell that said, "IT'S A BEAUTIFUL DAY!"

 

And so I'm sitting here, writing to you, listening to Pink sing...

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I'm a noob - and that's a good thing! courage freedom newsletters trust Feb 21, 2024

 Storytime with Ruby

When was the last time you did something for the first time?

I'll go first. 

This weekend I skied for the very first time.

I took lessons in the morning, and honestly I was exhausted halfway through the lessons. By lunch I didn’t think I could handle taking a...

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De-Programming the Bullshit newsletters Feb 17, 2024

Storytime with Kate

hi friend, I want to put this work into perspective for you,  

What Ruby and I get so often when people are deciding whether or not to join the Self Study Program is, "what is it?!"

And as ABSOLUTELY CRINGE this sounds yall, it's a journey.

We can't promise you'll...

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this is a very important reminder for unshakeable belonging acceptance courage freedom newsletters self study Feb 08, 2024

 Storytime with Ruby

I wanna keep this short and sweet, so I'm gonna dive right in...

I am so proud to say that in the lives of my clients, friends, and myself, we've really been showing how much we've grown lately! Specifically when it comes to leaning into a new way of being or a brave new...

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it just sucks sometimes: on grief and other things boundaries newsletters Feb 04, 2024

Storytime with Kate

 

y'all, I've sat down 5 times this week to write this newsletter.

 

And here I am, the final hour of the final day of this week, trying again... nothing like coming up on a deadline to get something done.

 

I've struggled to write a newsletter this week...

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